Feeling frustrated [with yourself] and want to create a lasting change in your life? Here's…
I read a great book this week called The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin. Over the course of a year Gretchen researched what creates happiness as well as experimented with raising her own happiness level.
I’ve decided to create a similar project for myself for the next 6-9 months (not sure the details, still in the planning phase right now).
One of my favorite parts of her book were what she calls The 12 Commandments [according to Gretchen].
Here are Gretchen’s 12 Commandments
1. Be Gretchen.
2. Let it go.
3. Act the way I want to feel.
4. Do it now.
5. Be polite and be fair.
6. Enjoy the process.
7. Spend out.
8. Identify the problem.
9. Lighten up.
10. Do what ought to be done.
11. No calculation.
12. There is only love.
As I’m starting to work on my project, I think her first commandment is probably going to create my first commandment, too. Yet, as I sit here and ask myself, “who is Polly? what does Polly want? what makes Polly…Polly?” I don’t have the answers. I don’t have them at first blush, but I know they exist deep inside if I do a little more asking.
I don’t remember exactly how old Gretchen is at the time of writing her book, but she’s probably mid-30’s. I’m 41 now and I can hardly believe I don’t know the answers to my earlier questions instantly. I’m truly shocked, but alas that’s where I am.[polly_book]
Things are about to change. I’m going to get to know ME.
I look at this weekend (and coming weeks) as a blissful journey into ME-dom. What does life on MY terms look like? I’ve often said don’t wait for someday to start YOUR life. Someday island is filled with unfulfilled dreams and lost hopes. It’s nice to visit, but not a place to live in. And yet here I sit as i write this and wonder what is it I truly want. What am I good and should be doing?
I look ahead with excitement as I spend the coming weeks/months getting to ME a whole lot better. I’m ready to take on be-ing Polly. Guess I can’t really avoid it, but it’s more fulfilling to be conscious while I am being me.
I had a friend email me she’s considering starting a blog to help women with self-esteem and body image issues (her deep passion is to possibly help others with eating disorders). I offered to help her any way I could. She asked how to figure out what to do and what she loved. The advice I gave her I’ll now give to myself.
You can find resources, networks, support and tons of people/things to help you on your journey. But first you must know what you want. The answer to “who am I?” and “what do I want?” can only come from within. Looking for these answers on the outside or asking others is not the best way to get to the bottom of them for yourself.
I’m going to take my own advice. I’m goin’ in. I’m going to start asking my inner self, my higher self for answers to these and other questions so I can get to know me. Finally. I don’t expect this to be the end of the asking or answering, but I do expect it to be the beginning of a beautiful dialogue of discovery and self-exploration. The journey to know who you are is one of the most enriching I think I could pursue right now.
I’d like to wrap this up by opening up about what I know for sure today.
a recovered bulimic
a teacher, leader and a guide
an adventure seeker
a lover of joy, happiness and fun
an animal obsessor (needed a work stronger than love, that’s what I came up with)
a fast talker, fast walker, fast thinker
a book worm
an eating disorder blogger
a life-long student of life
a practitioner of personal transformation
a conscious spiritual being
a home owner
a world traveler
a wife, daughter, daughter-in-law, and neice
a truth seeker
a good cook
a web marketing expert
a heart-ful friend and confidant
Gosh, that was fun! I highly recommend it to anyone.
Well, that’s just the beginning. I look forward to many more days and weeks of self-exploration and discovery. Until the next time, please explore your SELF, too.