Stop Beating Yourself Up for Where You Are – Lesson 6 of 7 from Abraham-Hicks Workshop

August 2, 2014

Another great lesson to share today – this is lesson 5 of 7 in my series about what I learned from attending an Abraham-Hicks workshop recently.

Here is the entire series if you’d like to explore more:

Lesson 1: You have to care about how you feel.

Lesson 2: There are no setbacks in life.

Lesson 3: Speak only about what you want.

Lesson 4: We create reality from our vibrational atmosphere.

Lesson 5: The path is being laid out for you.

Lesson 6: Stop beating yourself up for where you are.

Lesson 7: You get rid of doubt by not having it.

Lesson 6 – Stop Beating Yourself Up for Where You Are

Where you are is where you are.

Sounds a little basic, but there’s a lot of truth in that simple statement. Where you are is the accumulation of what you’ve reached for and achieved so far in your life. It is the sum vibration of what you’ve allowed into your experience to this point.

Now is all there is.

What I want to share with you most about this idea of not beating yourself up for where you are is the idea that you can’t focus on more than one thing at a time. If you’re focused on negative, you can’t allow in positive. And vice versa.

If you’re focused on beating yourself up because you’re not where you think you should be then you’re denying yourself so much; so much self love, so much well being, so much abundance.

You literally cut yourself off from what is wanting to come to you when you’ve got the whip out and you’re virtually beating yourself up for not meeting your own expectations.

Now, as I write this I want to say there is a little good in realizing where you are if it’s not where you want to be and you allow it to inspire you to keep reaching for the next level.

The expansion of your self. If you allow where you are to be a benchmark, a starting point that’s a good thing. It’s your bouncing off place to more.

However, what we often do that doesn’t allow in all that we want into our lives is we look at what is and where we are and allow it to distract us from where we’re going and we use it against ourselves.

Two stories for this…

Abraham talks about where we are and our emotional guidance within like a gauge we can use to help us keep on track to where we want to go. An example is like the gas gauge in your car. You don’t pull up to the gas station when you’re on empty and put your head on the steering wheel and start weeping. You don’t say things like “I shouldn’t be here. I’m so much better that this. I had such high hopes for where I was going. I must be doing something wrong.”

Instead, if your gas tank is on empty you just fill it back up. You don’t beat yourself up for getting low on gas and the same is true for allowing your present now to be an excuse for killing your dreams. It’s just a gauge, a measuring stick against where you want to be.

Where you are is part of your journey and you’re still expanding. Don’t stop now!

Second story – I was working with a new coaching client who was admitted to a psych ward for suicide watch yesterday. She called me this morning crying. She’s been crying several times a day for months now and she reached her “enough” point yesterday and was admitted for treatment.

As she called me the next morning crying she kept repeating over and over “I thought I’d wake up here and wouldn’t cry again. I thought I’d be better. I thought I’d be over this by now.”

Really?!

Over night you expected all that negative momentum of sadness, depression, self-loathing, anxiety she’d been building up for months – even years – to be gone over night?

Wow, I’d love to be able to say we can switch things around for ourselves that quickly but I’ve not seen it very often.

My coaching to her was two fold: first, every time she spoke the words to me “I thought I’d be over this and wouldn’t cry again” she started crying. I interrupted her after about the third time she said it and said “Look at what you’re crying about. You’re focused on beating yourself up and it’s making you upset. You want to keep crying…keep saying that you’re not where you should be. If you want to start feeling better, start saying something like ‘I’m getting a little better each moment.”

Anytime we shift our focus to something that brings us emotional relief, we’re back on track. What we focus on expands and if we choose to focus on not being enough or experience thoughts of lack we will pinch ourselves off from Source and that won’t feel good.

My second coaching was to begin to find something to appreciate in where she was.

I knew she was in a nice facility with lots of kind people.

I reminded her that there was something to acknowledge and be thankful for.

When you’re focusing on things you appreciate you are raising your vibration and allowing in well being and feelings of love. The longer you hold onto that, the better you’ll feel. As I said a moment ago, you can’t be focused on the negative if you’re focused on the positive.

It really comes down to guiding or directing your thoughts. When you get wound up in negative emotions and they have a lot of momentum it’s harder to shift to general and then positive. The key is to stop the negative thoughts from getting you off track early. Paying attention, being mindful and aware is really key.

Like I shared in lesson 1 – it’s really important you care about how you feel. If you’re beating yourself up, you’ll feel badly. You don’t want that so when you find yourself feeling bad, it’s time to step in and be conscious of what you’re focusing on and shift your attention.

Please be sure to share your comments below and stay tuned for the entire series.